Do not Ever Think about Divorce: Keep Your Marriage Alive

I am now 26 years old and I am happy to say that I am still never married single guy, but I am writing on this topic with zero experience. In today’s generation in maximum cases people love first without knowing each other and when the time comes to know each other result is “BREAK UP”, it may be before marriage or after marriage. But there are some people present in this generation who save their marriage life with maturity, mutual understanding, faith, love and support. Thus this article is dedicated to those people who are planning to break up, give divorce or already gave divorce but want to meet again. Please read this article carefully and if I am wrong or right anywhere within post kindly give your feedback through your comment. I know it is a very sensitive topic, but without try how can you give up!

Finding out What Went Wrong

• Put your full effort to figure out what went wrong, you cannot move forward if you do not know how to bring back your happiness. So, give a hard look some matters such as: Growing incongruity (which occurs due to Work, family, stress, finance and everything else our modern world throws at you can reason people to disclose their true colors), Lack of communication, External Affair where he/she did confession from the heart, Money, Physical Relationship etc.  
• Figure out the solutions of problems which create from above reasons where you should not put your past mistakes just go for happy solution. Remember one thing nobody means nobody can take a decision on this matter. You and your spouse both only can take a decision on it. If you cannot take decision alone in your life then kindly do not read the whole article and stop here, because you are still an immature kid, I mean to say you are still a mom’s boy. People often say they'll change, but they rarely do. After they're comfortable, they usually revert back to the people they were before. It's not impossible for someone to vary wholesale, but it's improbable.  
• Do an open communication with spouse and let him/her to know that you got the solution to fix your life problem and please do not put your relatives within it. A lot of the time, our impulse is to fight back instead of hear what the person is actually saying. So, in this situation count 1,2,3 then with calm mind go for the solutions.
• In our open communication ask your spouse that whether she/he will be sacrificing along with you in every aspect for a happy relationship, I guarantee you if she/he really loves you then “YES” will be the answer, but ask this one very cool and mature manner with real smile which you had given when you see your spouse first time.   

Join Your Broken Pieces

• Create a safe place for communication because most of the marriage converts to divorce due to lack of communication, remember you should not do anything while you communicate with your spouse no TV, no children just talk, because sometime your spouse wants a pair of ears and a shoulder to lean on.
• Don't use threats like I am going to leave you or I will marry another better one etc. because it will only create disturbance and you cannot save your marriage life and do not dig up the past. Learn how to argue effectively, with humility.
• Trust is a big factor in any kind of relationship; if you have trust on each other then all happiness will come automatically. Trust is gained when expectations are met, and when actions are followed through on. If you say you're going to do something, just do it my friend.
• Celebrate success as well as support each other when failure comes in your life, because you know that life is not always same.
• Respect each other personal independence. Let be live free with big wings and do not worry trust will do other things.
• Just realize your spouse that “It is no one's fault and it was just bad past” and live in present with happiness and full joy.
• Go for travelling, night out, dinner, Movie etc. (Note: Do not take your whole family, sometimes you should live for each other happiness).

 

 Hope I will be a great husband and follow above points if life will show me such type of situation.

“As I believe that all happiness in own hands, so stop thinking about divorce or break up and be mature.”

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